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pretty things. mild sj. fandom nonsense (avengers/captain america, teen wolf). queer genderqueer liberal arts student. assorted musings. some ragemode. i like space, shakespeare, the oxford comma, and cats. PORN BLOGS PLEASE LEAVE! this is not a place for you! if i follow you and you would like me not to, let me know and i'll fix it.

essex-alpha:

okamidensetsu:

the-ankle-rocker:

This… 1000 times this.

Agreed.

Gaming is about having fun and it gets better with the more people you share it with. Phenomenal advise.

devildoll:

sizvideos:

Video

My friend Mary Kate usually has one or two baby goats around every year and every other animal that lives with them—horses, dogs, cows—ends up just like this pig: resigned to being a trampoline/jungle gym.

aatmagaialove:

…I think that we are like stars. Something happens to burst us open; but when we burst open and think we are dying; we’re actually turning into a Supernova.  And then when we look at ourselves again, we see that we’re suddenly more Beautiful than we ever were before! ~ C. JoyBell C.

aatmagaialove:

…I think that we are like stars. Something happens to burst us open; but when we burst open and think we are dying; we’re actually turning into a Supernova.

And then when we look at ourselves again, we see that we’re suddenly more Beautiful than we ever were before!

~ C. JoyBell C.

isozyme:

anartisticanomaly:

phantomcat94:

meefling:

You Aren’t Boring I Just Suck At Conversations I’m Sorry: a novel by me

I’m Not Ignoring You I Just Don’t Know What To Say: a sequel by me

I Feel Like I have Nothing Interesting To Say So I Don’t Say Anything At All And I’m Really Sorry Don’t Stop Talking To Me: the trilogy.

huffs in frustration

okay so:

i know this feeling intimately and it really helped me to discover that sucking at conversations is not, in fact, intrinsic about you.  social anxiety is hard, but getting better at small talk is a learnable skill!  having interesting things to say is a learnable skill!  we are not doomed to feel this way forever!

skills i am constantly working on:

1) asking more questions!  asking people what they think then asking why they think it.  when someone says something confusing, asking them to explain better.  this is hard!  but good.

2) effectively narrativizing my life!  when something stressful or unlikely or hilarious happens to me, trying to find the punchline.  real life doesn’t always have a satisfying ending and i hate when my stories trail off into nothing, so i try to test-run stories, noting when an ending falls flat. remembering that being funny takes practice.

3) surrounding myself with good conversationalists.  extroverts are great for this!  learn to enjoy conversations while they do all the work.  steal their tricks!  it is so relaxing to socialize with a group of people who are genuinely drawing energy from just being around each other. 

4) no seriously asking people questions everyone wants to talk about themselves and their opinions more, and people have super cool stuff to say if they trust you to listen and not think they’re annoying.  it’s so tricky, but so fabulous when it works.

this may not help everyone, but seeing this helpless post with three hundred thousand notes was v concerning to me.

okay grumpy oldster out, carry on.

roachpatrol:

creatures-alive:

Umbonia crassicornis nymph, thorn bug (by Andres Moline)

baby invaders

roachpatrol:

creatures-alive:

Umbonia crassicornis nymph, thorn bug (by Andres Moline)

baby invaders